Wembley is definitely a part of the problem I had with the Capello era. It's just awful. Is there an uglier large modern stadium? It seems to stand as a perfect symbol of everything bad about the FA and the football establishment. Give it to some NFL franchise and be done with it - there could hardly be a more fitting tenant.
As for Englishmen hating Englishness and patriotism - that does seem to be in a certain English tradition. I think it was George Orwell who wrote about the peculiar anti-englishness among a part of the British left. I suppose it's a good thing in many ways.
The left in 'Murica is the same.