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Swingers & swinging...

Oncey's Poll


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[quote author=Skullflower link=topic=24077.msg584071#msg584071 date=1212148814]
i think you have to be semi psychopathic to be involved in this kind of stuff.
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i like that.
 
[quote author=foureyes link=topic=24077.msg584060#msg584060 date=1212148534]
nope. I'm sorry mate but i dont think i am. There will always be the odd exception to every rule but i think the vast majority of people who really love their partner would rather die than watch someone else fuk them.

do you have a partner you really truly love? If so can you really tell me you could happily sit and watch them fuk someone else? While you do the same with another stranger?

could you bollocks.
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I personally couldn't do it, but I can understand how people do. I don't see why this is so hard for you to except.

I think people who live out in the country with no electricity and all that are nuts, but I'm not going to berate them for it and question their values.
 
[quote author=keniget link=topic=24077.msg584190#msg584190 date=1212153553]
[quote author=foureyes link=topic=24077.msg584060#msg584060 date=1212148534]
nope. I'm sorry mate but i dont think i am. There will always be the odd exception to every rule but i think the vast majority of people who really love their partner would rather die than watch someone else fuk them.

do you have a partner you really truly love? If so can you really tell me you could happily sit and watch them fuk someone else? While you do the same with another stranger?

could you bollocks.
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I personally couldn't do it, but I can understand how people do. I don't see why this is so hard for you to except.

I think people who live out in the country with no electricity and all that are nuts, but I'm not going to berate them for it and question their values.
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good for you my friend. Just expressing an opinion. Albeit a strong one.
 
If I had a partner/wife and I truly loved my partner/wife there's is not a chance in hell.


A hypothetical question attracts a hypothetical answer.
 
[quote author=vantage link=topic=24077.msg583659#msg583659 date=1212132547]
[quote author=keniget link=topic=24077.msg583620#msg583620 date=1212126436]
Heh, I think that after 10 years of marriage, you've just been offered sex with another woman and thought of it is driving you nuts.

I like the idea of swinging and open relationships, but in reality, I know it wouldn't work for me. I was kind of in that sort of situation once and seeing the other guy near my girlfriend made my blood boil - that was the end of that.

Threesomes (FFM) are the way forward.
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Couldn't have put it better myself, Ken.
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No, lads. That's not it.

Hence my turning down the offer...
 
[quote author=foureyes link=topic=24077.msg583672#msg583672 date=1212133403]

I'm sure many will disagree with me on this one, but I think swinging is fucking sick. I really do.

If you can even contemplate the thought of someone else banging your other half's brains out while you hump someone else, you don't love her, and vice versa.

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It's these two sentences that folks are objecting to, specky...

It's fine for you to think what you think, but to call those who feel differently "sick" is judgemental and flat out wrong, imho.

And respectfully, your 2nd part is nonsense too - I've read "studies", where 60%+ of those who watch porn (even rarely) admit to picturing their partner in the role of the guy/girl in the flick. And there's a lot more people who watch the odd porn than will actually admit to it...

My wife and I have a better sex life and a stronger relationship ten years on than we EVER have - It's brilliant, and I love every second of it. So does she. I don't want nor need to do this. But as I've said earlier, the theory behind this doesn't repulse me...

Doesn't mean I don't love her, mate. That's a very broad stroke that you're painting with.
 
[quote author=Cassady link=topic=24077.msg584257#msg584257 date=1212156849]
If I had a partner/wife and I truly loved my partner/wife there's is not a chance in hell.

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i do and hence, not a chance in hell ... (or heaven)
 
[quote author=LeTallecWiz link=topic=24077.msg584281#msg584281 date=1212158123]
[quote author=Cassady link=topic=24077.msg584257#msg584257 date=1212156849]
If I had a partner/wife and I truly loved my partner/wife there's is not a chance in hell.

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i do and hence, not a chance in hell ... (or heaven)

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I completey agree. Sex or love making is sacred or should be between lovers. The energies exchanged are unique and personal.
 
[quote author=Cassady link=topic=24077.msg584284#msg584284 date=1212158266]
[quote author=LeTallecWiz link=topic=24077.msg584281#msg584281 date=1212158123]
[quote author=Cassady link=topic=24077.msg584257#msg584257 date=1212156849]
If I had a partner/wife and I truly loved my partner/wife there's is not a chance in hell.

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i do and hence, not a chance in hell ... (or heaven)

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I completey agree. Sex or love making is sacred or should be between lovers. The energies exchanged are unique and personal.


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that's something that is found in quite a bit in Jewish mysticism, even very much 'discussed' in 'The Song of Songs' by King Solomon.
 
[quote author=LeTallecWiz link=topic=24077.msg584289#msg584289 date=1212158404]
[quote author=Cassady link=topic=24077.msg584284#msg584284 date=1212158266]
[quote author=LeTallecWiz link=topic=24077.msg584281#msg584281 date=1212158123]
[quote author=Cassady link=topic=24077.msg584257#msg584257 date=1212156849]
If I had a partner/wife and I truly loved my partner/wife there's is not a chance in hell.

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i do and hence, not a chance in hell ... (or heaven)

[/quote]

I completey agree. Sex or love making is sacred or should be between lovers. The energies exchanged are unique and personal.


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that's something that is found in quite a bit in Jewish mysticism, even very much 'discussed' in 'The Song of Songs' by King Solomon.

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😀

I never knew that. I must have aprt of my values and philoshophy in every religion or mystic order under The Lying Rag.

Every time I speak people say are you this or are you that. That is from there etc.......... 😀

Maybe all my past lives surfacing. 😉
 
[quote author=Cassady link=topic=24077.msg584284#msg584284 date=1212158266]
[quote author=LeTallecWiz link=topic=24077.msg584281#msg584281 date=1212158123]
[quote author=Cassady link=topic=24077.msg584257#msg584257 date=1212156849]
If I had a partner/wife and I truly loved my partner/wife there's is not a chance in hell.

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i do and hence, not a chance in hell ... (or heaven)

[/quote]

I completey agree. Sex or love making is sacred or should be between lovers. The energies exchanged are unique and personal.


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agree and agree
 
[quote author=Y1 link=topic=24077.msg584339#msg584339 date=1212161198]
[quote author=Cassady link=topic=24077.msg584284#msg584284 date=1212158266]
[quote author=LeTallecWiz link=topic=24077.msg584281#msg584281 date=1212158123]
[quote author=Cassady link=topic=24077.msg584257#msg584257 date=1212156849]
If I had a partner/wife and I truly loved my partner/wife there's is not a chance in hell.

[/quote]

i do and hence, not a chance in hell ... (or heaven)

[/quote]

I completey agree. Sex or love making is sacred or should be between lovers. The energies exchanged are unique and personal.


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agree and agree

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So you don't want to swing then ?

Bah. to reverse psychology. 😉
 
[quote author=Cassady link=topic=24077.msg584353#msg584353 date=1212162017]
[quote author=Y1 link=topic=24077.msg584339#msg584339 date=1212161198]
[quote author=Cassady link=topic=24077.msg584284#msg584284 date=1212158266]
[quote author=LeTallecWiz link=topic=24077.msg584281#msg584281 date=1212158123]
[quote author=Cassady link=topic=24077.msg584257#msg584257 date=1212156849]
If I had a partner/wife and I truly loved my partner/wife there's is not a chance in hell.

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i do and hence, not a chance in hell ... (or heaven)

[/quote]

I completey agree. Sex or love making is sacred or should be between lovers. The energies exchanged are unique and personal.


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agree and agree

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So you don't want to swing then ?

Bah. to reverse psychology. 😉
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Swinging is not for me
 
[quote author=Whaddapie link=topic=24077.msg584275#msg584275 date=1212157870]
[quote author=foureyes link=topic=24077.msg583672#msg583672 date=1212133403]

I'm sure many will disagree with me on this one, but I think swinging is fucking sick. I really do.

If you can even contemplate the thought of someone else banging your other half's brains out while you hump someone else, you don't love her, and vice versa.

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It's these two sentences that folks are objecting to, specky...

It's fine for you to think what you think, but to call those who feel differently "sick" is judgemental and flat out wrong, imho.

And respectfully, your 2nd part is nonsense too - I've read "studies", where 60%+ of those who watch porn (even rarely) admit to picturing their partner in the role of the guy/girl in the flick. And there's a lot more people who watch the odd porn than will actually admit to it...

My wife and I have a better sex life and a stronger relationship ten years on than we EVER have - It's brilliant, and I love every second of it. So does she. I don't want nor need to do this. But as I've said earlier, the theory behind this doesn't repulse me...

Doesn't mean I don't love her, mate. That's a very broad stroke that you're painting with.


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you totally misunderstood my second paragraph. Hence i'm afraid most of your post is moot. I meant contemplating actually going through with swinging. Not fantasising about it.

sorry mate but the whole idea repulses me. Excuse me if i dont mince my words in this instance. I cant be arsed being pc on this one.
 
Oooooh, great thread.

I have never tried or been offered the chance to swing, although I make several jokes about it on couples-nights out to unnerve my mates other halves.


If it for you, then go for it.
If not then leave it well alone.


You need to have a deep level of trust, and I assume that you must be a little nuts to actually have the balls to do it.
Its just another different type of relationship, where you both share an interest.
Like the both playing backgammon, or both wearing an adult nappy and shitting in it.

Each to their own I say.
 
[quote author=foureyes link=topic=24077.msg584397#msg584397 date=1212163653]
[quote author=Whaddapie link=topic=24077.msg584275#msg584275 date=1212157870]
[quote author=foureyes link=topic=24077.msg583672#msg583672 date=1212133403]

I'm sure many will disagree with me on this one, but I think swinging is fucking sick. I really do.

If you can even contemplate the thought of someone else banging your other half's brains out while you hump someone else, you don't love her, and vice versa.

[/quote]

It's these two sentences that folks are objecting to, specky...

It's fine for you to think what you think, but to call those who feel differently "sick" is judgemental and flat out wrong, imho.

And respectfully, your 2nd part is nonsense too - I've read "studies", where 60%+ of those who watch porn (even rarely) admit to picturing their partner in the role of the guy/girl in the flick. And there's a lot more people who watch the odd porn than will actually admit to it...

My wife and I have a better sex life and a stronger relationship ten years on than we EVER have - It's brilliant, and I love every second of it. So does she. I don't want nor need to do this. But as I've said earlier, the theory behind this doesn't repulse me...

Doesn't mean I don't love her, mate. That's a very broad stroke that you're painting with.


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you totally misunderstood my second paragraph. Hence i'm afraid most of your post is moot. I meant contemplating actually going through with swinging. Not fantasising about it.

sorry mate but the whole idea repulses me. Excuse me if i dont mince my words in this instance. I cant be arsed being pc on this one.
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I understood what you wrote, my friend.

Fantasy. Reality. Contemplation. Whatever...

My point remains the same... You cannot say that somebody does or doesn't love their partner becasue they do or do not have the same opinion as you do regarding certain topics.

My friend and his wife are very strong together - They just have adifferent outlook on this particular subject than you do.

Just becasue you're not into it doesn't make it wrong. Life's not black and white like that.
 
[quote author=Paddy link=topic=24077.msg584490#msg584490 date=1212173726]
I tried to cheat once and lost my erection. That thought me.
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Ha ha thats happened to me a few times.. guilt guilt :-[
 
[quote author=Whaddapie link=topic=24077.msg584482#msg584482 date=1212172141]
[quote author=foureyes link=topic=24077.msg584397#msg584397 date=1212163653]
[quote author=Whaddapie link=topic=24077.msg584275#msg584275 date=1212157870]
[quote author=foureyes link=topic=24077.msg583672#msg583672 date=1212133403]

I'm sure many will disagree with me on this one, but I think swinging is fucking sick. I really do.

If you can even contemplate the thought of someone else banging your other half's brains out while you hump someone else, you don't love her, and vice versa.

[/quote]

It's these two sentences that folks are objecting to, specky...

It's fine for you to think what you think, but to call those who feel differently "sick" is judgemental and flat out wrong, imho.

And respectfully, your 2nd part is nonsense too - I've read "studies", where 60%+ of those who watch porn (even rarely) admit to picturing their partner in the role of the guy/girl in the flick. And there's a lot more people who watch the odd porn than will actually admit to it...

My wife and I have a better sex life and a stronger relationship ten years on than we EVER have - It's brilliant, and I love every second of it. So does she. I don't want nor need to do this. But as I've said earlier, the theory behind this doesn't repulse me...

Doesn't mean I don't love her, mate. That's a very broad stroke that you're painting with.


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you totally misunderstood my second paragraph. Hence i'm afraid most of your post is moot. I meant contemplating actually going through with swinging. Not fantasising about it.

sorry mate but the whole idea repulses me. Excuse me if i dont mince my words in this instance. I cant be arsed being pc on this one.
[/quote]

I understood what you wrote, my friend.

Fantasy. Reality. Contemplation. Whatever...

My point remains the same... You cannot say that somebody does or doesn't love their partner becasue they do or do not have the same opinion as you do regarding certain topics.

My friend and his wife are very strong together - They just have adifferent outlook on this particular subject than you do.

Just becasue you're not into it doesn't make it wrong. Life's not black and white like that.
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It does in my eyes mate. Folks are free to do what they like as long as it doesn't hurt others. But it's still very wrong in my eyes. We'll have to agree to disagree on this one. It's something I feel very strongly about.
 
[quote author=Sunny link=topic=24077.msg584532#msg584532 date=1212178841]
I tried swinging once. But I much preferred the see-saw or the roundabout.
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I made the mistake of going on a see-saw with a fatty once. Sent me flying. Never again.
 
I think I'd be one of the conservative bunch on here.

Yeah it's fun, but I don't see it as being particularly conducive to a healthy relationship.
 
I've a mate who gets off on seeing his missus fuck other fella's.

Now that is just fucking mental. It actually turns him on.

I'd just kill them, but no, he cracks one off. Mental.
 
[quote author=Whaddapie link=topic=24077.msg584658#msg584658 date=1212191753]
You'd certainly be playing with fire, that's for sure...
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True.

I suppose it's really for people who are missing something in their relationship. It might work for them, but obviously that's not the case with you and Amy.
 
[quote author=FoxForceFive link=topic=24077.msg584659#msg584659 date=1212191774]
I've a mate who gets off on seeing his missus fuck other fella's.

Now that is just fucking mental. It actually turns him on.

I'd just kill them, but no, he cracks one off. Mental.
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Yeah the lad I was on about earlier in the thread is the same.. Fucking weird, the problem is, he doesn't deal with it well either, once he's done his load reality kicks in and he doesn't like it, or if a guy's bigger than he is he'll go off on one..

I think some fantasies should stay just that.
 
[quote author=mark1975 link=topic=24077.msg584665#msg584665 date=1212191912]
Yeah the lad I was on about earlier in the thread is the same.. Fucking weird, the problem is, he doesn't deal with it well either, once he's done his load reality kicks in and he doesn't like it, or if a guy's bigger than he is he'll go off on one..

I think some fantasies should stay just that.
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hahahaha.

Nah, my mate's not like that afterwards, good job really.

Me & my mates have all often 'shared' girls at parties, & after town, but that's fairly normal for our generation, & I certainly wouldnt do it with a proper girlfriend.
 
[quote author=FoxForceFive link=topic=24077.msg584659#msg584659 date=1212191774]
I've a mate who gets off on seeing his missus fuck other fella's.

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Got your PM mate. Nah, not doing nothing Saturday.
 
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