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I'm sure many will disagree with me on this one, but I think swinging is fucking sick. I really do.
If you can even contemplate the thought of someone else banging your other half's brains out while you hump someone else, you don't love her, and vice versa.
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It's these two sentences that folks are objecting to, specky...
It's fine for you to think what you think, but to call those who feel differently "sick" is judgemental and flat out wrong, imho.
And respectfully, your 2nd part is nonsense too - I've read "studies", where 60%+ of those who watch porn (even rarely) admit to picturing their partner in the role of the guy/girl in the flick. And there's a lot more people who watch the odd porn than will actually admit to it...
My wife and I have a better sex life and a stronger relationship ten years on than we EVER have - It's brilliant, and I love every second of it. So does she. I don't want nor need to do this. But as I've said earlier, the theory behind this doesn't repulse me...
Doesn't mean I don't love her, mate. That's a very broad stroke that you're painting with.
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you totally misunderstood my second paragraph. Hence i'm afraid most of your post is moot. I meant contemplating actually going through with swinging. Not fantasising about it.
sorry mate but the whole idea repulses me. Excuse me if i dont mince my words in this instance. I cant be arsed being pc on this one.
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I understood what you wrote, my friend.
Fantasy. Reality. Contemplation. Whatever...
My point remains the same... You cannot say that somebody does or doesn't love their partner becasue they do or do not have the same opinion as you do regarding certain topics.
My friend and his wife are very strong together - They just have adifferent outlook on this particular subject than you do.
Just becasue you're not into it doesn't make it wrong. Life's not black and white like that.