What's people opinions on it? Is it essential in your eyes that your partner is completely honest to you about everything? To me I've always had a thing about lying, I absolutely hate it. I can deal with things as long as people are always honest with me, even if it's going to upset me in there eyes. I just can't deal with a lack of trust.
The reason I bring this up is because my girlfriend quit smoking for me because I dislike it. Which is great, I'm really flattered and touched she's done it for me. The thing is though I'm 90% sure she's still doing it. Which is fine, it's her choice after all and she's definitely trying her best to cut back, the thing is though she won't tell me about it, worse than that she's actively trying to hide it from me. Little things like going to the loo and smoking in there and not letting me near her (or the loo, I had to wait five minutes on Saturday when I was bursting for a piss and it still stank after that) until she's sprayed and eaten half a pack of chewing gum.
Is it just me, I'm I getting to bothered about the lack of truthfulness, or is it how you'd all feel? I don't really care if she is smoking, I'm happy she's trying so hard, not the other way round and I've always told her that, it's just if she's continually lying to me because it's what she thinks I want to hear then it's going to really hurt. It's not like it's even something I can approach her about, if I even suggest she smells of smoke she gets really upset with me and makes it out like I'm a complete arse for suggesting that, I think that just makes it worse for me though. I don't know what to do to be honest, I haven't said anything for now because I don't want to cause a scene and she's not smoking around me at the moment, so it's kind of win win, I just hate the thought that, if she is doing it, she's lying to me and going behind my back. If she'll lie to me about this after all, where will it end?
I hate lying. What's you opinion on it?
The reason I bring this up is because my girlfriend quit smoking for me because I dislike it. Which is great, I'm really flattered and touched she's done it for me. The thing is though I'm 90% sure she's still doing it. Which is fine, it's her choice after all and she's definitely trying her best to cut back, the thing is though she won't tell me about it, worse than that she's actively trying to hide it from me. Little things like going to the loo and smoking in there and not letting me near her (or the loo, I had to wait five minutes on Saturday when I was bursting for a piss and it still stank after that) until she's sprayed and eaten half a pack of chewing gum.
Is it just me, I'm I getting to bothered about the lack of truthfulness, or is it how you'd all feel? I don't really care if she is smoking, I'm happy she's trying so hard, not the other way round and I've always told her that, it's just if she's continually lying to me because it's what she thinks I want to hear then it's going to really hurt. It's not like it's even something I can approach her about, if I even suggest she smells of smoke she gets really upset with me and makes it out like I'm a complete arse for suggesting that, I think that just makes it worse for me though. I don't know what to do to be honest, I haven't said anything for now because I don't want to cause a scene and she's not smoking around me at the moment, so it's kind of win win, I just hate the thought that, if she is doing it, she's lying to me and going behind my back. If she'll lie to me about this after all, where will it end?
I hate lying. What's you opinion on it?
